While dealing with grief is very difficult, the blueprint for dealing with it is SURPRISINGLY similar to path developers take when working through Drupal. This session comically explores those stages.
This two-person psychology session between Pete Croke, a developer still fighting the good fight, and Fredric Mitchell, a developer with deep battle scars, explores the seven stages (source):
1. SHOCK & DENIAL
Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")
4. REFLECTION, LONELINESS
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your journey, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did and focus on memories before Drupal.
5. THE UPWARD TURN
As you start to adjust to life, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE
You learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before. But you will find a way forward.
Collaborative notes link: http://bit.ly/13g9dGF
Slides WITH AUDIO: http://www.slideshare.net/fredricmitchell/7stages-drupal-development